It is a beautiful morning in the Ozark mountains. Yesterday was a great day of fellowship and learning. I was in a conversation yesterday with a woman who shared some of her and her husband's story with me. Her husband had tried many home businesses in the past and when he came home with the idea for this one, she was adamant that she wanted nothing to do with it. She wanted to hear nothing, see nothing, know nothing. She was a 25 year veteran of import/export sales and not only did she not see how this could work, she had only seen her husband try and fail in the past.
To her credit, she did not stand in his way...although she admitted that she did not make it easy on him. One year later, as he was beginning to have some success, she agreed to go to an event and when she met the people and felt the true spirit of people helping people, and kindness and warmth, the positive energy....she began to understand. Now, four years later, she is with him at an event and they have reach the "Diamond" leadership level. Their quality of life is many times better now and she was expressing how grateful she was that her husband moved toward his goal without her support.
The point here is that it is not uncommon for a spouse to "go it alone" (I have) and not have the participation of the other spouse. This is simply a matter of priorities and values, and goals, passions, etc. What blows my mind though is when one spouse wants to do the business and the other attempts to stop them. If this is your situation, I cannot tell you what to do, I can only share my perspective after 21 years of experience. If this is going on...the issues is much deeper than agreeing or disagreeing about a business (cause our model has no risk anyway). This is a matter of jealousy, or mistrust, or fear, or any number of things that are much deeper issues. The business simply becomes a platform for the expression.
Your spouse doesn't have to agree with you or even support you...it's your dream...do they tell you what career you can have? Proabably not. It is wise and right to consult them about it, but you must do what is in your heart and if they try to impede you...you might suggest that they examine their own heart! On the flip side...model support of your spouse. Whatever my wife wants to pursue, I support...period. I support whatever her dreams are..it's not for me to agree or disagree...the dreams are hers, and in love it is my job to do whatever I can to help.
This is a good way to live and model...but don't have the expectation that they will do the same for you.
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Welcome! My name is Todd Burrier. Over two decades ago I was blessed to have been laid off in the banking industry during a time of economic upheaval. This led me to search for a way to have more control over my own future. I wound up in the home business world. After seven hard years of lessons and personal growth, I found a way to build a highly successful business from home, using some very basic and simple human principles. I have since been able to mentor many people on the path to a better life through creating a home based income stream. This blog is dedicated to helping anyone in a networking style business succeed. I will be sharing proven concepts for growing and leading a successful business. Anyone who is nice, honest, and committed to succeeding can do what I teach. If there are any topics you specifically would like me to address as we go along, just let me know. To comment on any posting mouse over next to the time of the post.
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